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Home / I have temporary custody of my young child. His father, my ‘ex’ , who is very violent is only allowed to see him at a visitation centre. The social worker appointed by court is responsible for the visitation. Now my ‘ex’ is campaigning to get permission to take our son to a family Barmitzvah. I understand the social worker is against the idea. I am terrified that if my son does go, I would never see him again, as my ‘ex’ would run away with the child, or hurt him to get back at me. What can I do ?

I have temporary custody of my young child. His father, my ‘ex’ , who is very violent is only allowed to see him at a visitation centre. The social worker appointed by court is responsible for the visitation. Now my ‘ex’ is campaigning to get permission to take our son to a family Barmitzvah. I understand the social worker is against the idea. I am terrified that if my son does go, I would never see him again, as my ‘ex’ would run away with the child, or hurt him to get back at me. What can I do ?

By: דיאנה שאלתיאלPublished on: 06 June, 2022

If the father applies to court to gain permission to extend visitation to cover the child’s attendance at a family celebration, then the mother will receive a copy of the application to court, and can file a formal objection. If, for example, there are professional reports which speak about the father’s dangerous tendencies, these can be used to oppose the proposal, by saying that it would not be in the child’s good to attend. Otherwise, the mother can ask the court to be guided by the social worker’s recommendations, as she has the necessary skills to decide what is in the child’s best interests. If the mother has other clear evidence pertaining to threats to abduct the child or harm him in any way then these can be used too, as the family court is not bound by such stringent rules of evidence as other courts are.


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